Relationship & NMMNG Coaching

Overcome Heartbreak. Date Consciously. Attract Love.

The last time I got my heart stomped on, I decided it was going to be just that: the last time.

 

To give you some background, I’d fallen head over heels for the woman I was dating. She was a drop-dead gorgeous, divorced mother of two. She was smart and funny and charming and successful. She owned her own business and volunteered in the community. She liked music and comedy and trying new restaurants. She was everything I ever wanted in a partner. Except that she was a little unstable and treated me like a second-class citizen. But, I didn’t care. I was in love. I ignored every yellow and red flag, overlooked the lies and broken promises, and tolerated her disrespectful behavior. I allowed her to unilaterally change the terms of our relationship on what seemed like a weekly basis. I did her favors and bought her things and told her how much she meant to me. In return, she tossed me out of her life like yesterday’s trash, without a moment’s hesitation or a hint of remorse. And, she did it by way of a text message.

 

In the past, I’d have worked through the pain by simply telling myself that this woman is a narcissist or a psycho or just a downright shithead. And, quite frankly, she might be all three. Or, she might not be. It doesn’t really matter. Because, the fact is, I played a role in it, too. I let her into my life. So, this time, I decided to closely examine my own behavior.

 

Heartbreak can be a powerful catalyst for change, if you choose to see it that way.  I began to look deep within, and asked myself a number of questions: Why does this keep happening? Why do I consistently fall for the same type of woman? Why did I try so pathetically hard to win this woman’s approval? Why did I love someone who couldn’t love me back? Why did I tolerate so much disrespect? Why didn’t I walk away when I knew I should have? And, why am I so heartbroken over someone who was so goddamn cruel?

 

I found the answers to several of these questions when I picked up the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. Within the first few pages, I had a number of “Holy Shit” moments, and realized that I had a severe case of Nice Guy Syndrome, an anxiety-based disorder that affects both men and women all over the world. Of course, there is nothing inherently wrong with being nice. But, when you fail to stand up for your values, make your own needs a priority, and walk away from bad situations, you’re denying yourself the life you deserve. And, in fact, you’re not really being nice at all. You’re also venturing down a path towards frustration and heartbreak. More often than not, nice guys (and girls):

 

  • Desperately seek the approval of others
  • Try to hide their perceived flaws and mistakes
  • Constantly put other people’s needs and wants before their own
  • Sacrifice their personal power
  • Co-create relationships that are far from satisfying
  • Fail to live up to their potential

 

Admittedly, I was so affected by Dr. Glover’s book and the concept of the Nice Guy Syndrome, that I did the necessary work to become a certified relationship coach and No More Mr. Nice Guy (NMMNG) coach. You can view my listing on Dr. Glover’s site here.

 

On my journey to becoming a coach, I discovered a passion for helping men and women overcome their difficulties in relationships. I became an expert in relationship patterns, and began to understand why so many of us consistently fall for the wrong people. And, now, I’ve made it part of my mission to help others overcome heartbreak, date more consciously, and find fulfillment in life and in love. If you’d like to work with me, schedule a conversation with me now.

 

I take pride in creating a safe space for everyone who chooses to work with me. And, you’ll get ongoing support, as you become the best version of yourself.  More specifically, I’ll help you:

OVERCOME HEARTBREAK & LOSS

 

DATE MORE CONSCIOUSLY

 

IDENTIFY YELLOW & RED FLAGS

 

OVERCOME SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS

 

ABOLISH YOUR “NICE GUY” TENDENCIES

 

UNDERSTAND CODEPENDENCY
IDENTIFY YOUR PATTERNS

 

UNDERSTAND NARCISISSTS & BORDERLINES

 

EXAMINE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

 

DEVELOP STRONG BOUNDARIES

 

UNDERSTAND ATTACHMENT THEORY

 

UNDERSTAND IDEALIZED RELATIONSHIPS
CLARIFY YOUR VALUES

 

WALK AWAY FROM BAD SITUATIONS

 

RESOLVE AMBIVALENCE & ANGER

 

FIND EMOTIONAL FREEDOM

 

REPAIR YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

 

UNDERSTAND TRAUMA BONDS
UNDERSTAND MASCULINE & FEMININE ENERGIES

 

SOOTHE YOUR ANXIETY

 

STOP OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOUR EX

 

RECLAIM YOUR POWER

 

CREATE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE

 

DEVELOP AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET

As human beings, we are wired for love and connection. You’re entitled to a first-class relationship – a relationship that lightens your load and doesn’t add to your burden. A healthy, loving, supportive partner should positively bless your life. You don’t have to put up with shit to be loved. Never settle for less than you deserve. And, most importantly, if you want an incredible relationship with another, you must first have an incredible relationship with yourself.

 

Ready to get started? Schedule a conversation with me.

You landed here for a reason. And, believe me, I know what you’re going through. But, now is the perfect time for growth. Now you can become a better, more attractive and more confident version of you.

 

Men seem to work with me because they want more confidence in every aspect of their lives. Women seem to work with me because they want more balance and intimacy. But, nearly everyone who works with me has one thing in common: somewhere along the line they internalized the belief that they have to put up with shit to be loved. And, in case you didn’t know, this is not how love works.

 

I’d like to help you gain more clarity in your relationships, overcome heartbreak, date more consciously, and create the life you deserve. Click here to schedule some time with me.

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