Hello, fellow human.
My name is Tony Endelman. I am an author, blogger, certified transformational life coach, relationship coach, certified NMMNG coach, certified happiness trainer, internet entrepreneur, music nut, comedy nerd, food freak, coffee lover, avid reader, thinker, dreamer, wanderer, road-tripper, and a bit of a hopeless f*cking romantic.
I was born and raised in Omaha. I graduated from the University of Wisconsin with a degree in communications and a minor in Spotted Cow. After graduating, I moved to Chicago, where I tried my hand at stand-up comedy and joined the writing program at The Second City. While in Chicago, I experienced debilitating anxiety and depression. I then decided to move back to Omaha to figure things out. I didn’t really figure things out, however. I spent the next decade working in advertising, which – for the most part – I f*cking hated.
In 2013, my father – an amazing man who was the picture of health – died suddenly and unexpectedly while exercising at the gym. This sent me down a path of deep self-exploration, on which I realized that life is simply too short and too unpredictable to settle for anything less than what you truly want.
In 2015, I somehow found myself working for transformational journalist and ten-time New York Times bestselling author, Neil Strauss (The Game, The Truth, Everybody Loves You When You’re Dead). Neil is a force. More than anything, he taught me the importance of stepping outside your comfort zone and facing your fears.
In 2016, determined to make big changes in my life, I packed up my shit and moved to New Orleans after falling madly in love with the city. Soon after, I completed my life coaching certification with the Robbins-Madanes Training Center for Strategic Intervention. The term Strategic Intervention was coined by Tony Robbins and his partner Chloe Madanes to describe their highly effective change work.
In 2017, I began my work with Dr. Robert Glover, the author of the groundbreaking book No More Mr. Nice Guy and the founder of Total Personal Integration (TPI) University. Dr. Glover is a renown marriage and family therapist, a dating and relationship coach, an educator, a motivational speaker, and a pioneer in men’s self-improvement. I soon became one of Dr. Glover’s elite certified No More Mr. Nice Guy (NMMNG) coaches, and have since helped hundreds of men transform their lives. I am grateful that I can call Dr. Glover both a mentor and a close friend.
In 2020, Dr. Glover asked me if I would be interested in writing a book that encapsulates all the wisdom he has put forth over his 40-year career. I was definitely interested. The book took me a year and a half to write. It’s called The Big Stick: Collected & Applied Wisdom from the Teachings of Dr. Robert Glover, and I’m very proud of it.
In 2021, I became certified in the Psychology of Happiness after completing a year-long program created by Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar. Dr. Ben-Shahar is one of the world’s foremost experts on happiness and the creator of the most popular class in the history of Harvard University.
My unconventional brand of self-help has been featured in The Huffington Post, YAHOO!, Lifehack, Thought Catalog, Thrive Global, Mindvalley, Elephant Journal, Tiny Buddha, The Good Men Project, and other places.
I am the founder of The Integrated Man Cave, a self-development website and positive community for men who wish to improve all aspects of their lives, and Integrated Man University, an all-encompassing program that helps frustrated, down-and-out Nice Guys become more confident, Integrated Men.
There’s more, but this is getting kind of long…
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
Omaha? That’s in Nebraska, right?
Yes. And no matter where I go, somebody inevitably asks me this question. Omaha is actually a wonderful city with a lot to offer, particularly if you want to settle down and raise a family. I usually just encourage people to read about it on Wikipedia.
Why did you start your blog?
Well, for one thing, I’m a writer. I love writing. And I’m endlessly fascinated by psychology and human behavior. I’ve spent years immersing myself in the research on things like happiness, confidence and relationships – mostly to overcome my own struggles.
I’ve also read hundreds of self-help books, many of which explain what to do but not how to do it. Love myself? Ok. How? Practice mindfulness? Sure. But how? Be a non-judgmental observer of self? That sounds awesome. How the fuck do I do that? Writing helps me sort a lot of this stuff out. And with any luck, I’ll help some others along the way.
Why did you decide to get certified as a life coach?
Truth be told, I used to think that life coaching was complete and utter nonsense. (I still hate the term life coach.) But one phone call with a massively inspiring, no-bullshit life coach changed my perspective.
I mercilessly battled depression and anxiety for many years. I lacked purpose and passion. I saw several doctors and therapists, tried a variety of medications, even experimented with hypnosis. Nothing seemed to work for me. I genuinely thought I was a lost cause. A coach helped me change my thinking, set goals, stop making excuses, grow some balls, and take control of my life. After working with a coach, I knew I wanted to become one.
Do you still do stand-up comedy?
No. But I think about it A LOT…
Are you writing another book?
Yes, I’m always working on something. Join my email list for updates!
Why did you move to New Orleans?
New Orleans is the most bizarre, beautiful, interesting, exciting, fun, frustrating, and culturally rich place I’ve ever experienced. There’s really nowhere like it. If you live in New Orleans and you’d like to work with me, or just get together for a glass of whiskey, shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
You’re amazing. I love your vulnerability, your authenticity, your incredible wit, your intelligence, your charm, and your devilish good looks. You’re just so cool. Plus, you’re modest. I’d love to work with you. How do I get started?
Thank you so much for the kind words. To get started, just schedule an introductory call with me.